Scars.

Scar:
1. A permanent mark that is left after you have had a cut or wound.
2. A permanent emotional mental effect caused by an unpleasant experience.

People often use the word "scar" to describe a failure in their life.
I won't deny the fact that I've used it a lot of times.
But I found another way of looking at this word, and revert it to something which could be more useful.

We often see scars as something unpleasant.
As a mark that is ugly.
As a mark that reminds you of a bad experience.
As a mark that will remain there forever.
And because of all these reasons, we find it very difficult to move on or even try again.

Yes a scar is ugly, but since when was failure beautiful?
Yes a scar reminds us of a bad experience, but it can also remind us the fact that we've tried our best?
Yes a scar will remain there forever, so are we going to remain beaten forever?

Scars are an indication that you've tried so hard but still end up falling.
That would explain a deep mark.
However, failure is inevitable.
Sometimes we're all too afraid of moving on or trying again because we're afraid of having another scar; another indication of failure.
However again, fear is inevitable.

When an inevitable comes, we all have got to learn to accept it.
Learn to learn from it.
And either move on or try again.

Imagine one day you were a baby and you fell down really badly while attempting to walk.
With the blood oozing, you sit on the ground and cry.
Your parent arrives to clean and dress the wound.
You leave yourself with a scar on your body.
The next day, would you sit there and never attempt to walk again?
No, your baby instincts would somehow spur yourself to try again.
Even if you still keep falling, you now can learn from each fall till you eventually walk.

Learn from each fall till you eventually walk.
And no matter how tough the journey is, at least you'll know you've tried your best.
You're not going to gain anything being afraid.
No pain, no gain.

. "The scars run too deep, such that I can't seem to move on."
. "The scars remind me that the past is real."
. "I can still feel the pain through the scars."
Aren't these one the few classic lines people use to describe their failed attempts?
Well, these lines are just excuses.
Excuses people come up with because their head is in their way.
Because they're afraid of failure again.

Instead of letting your head get in your way, use your head to analyse why you failed.
Take measures to improve and move on.
There will come a point in your life where you're going to have to repeat the feat.
When that time comes, deal with it.
Instead of being fearful to face your fears, let your fears be fearful to face you.

"Do not be afraid" appeared in the Bible 365 times.
It's equivalent to God telling you not to be afraid every single day in a year.
Now you've go to be sure He means it.
Surely, "With God, all things are possible." (Matthew 19:26)

Even for those who do not believe in Christianity, do not let scars tell you what to do.
You look at the scars with your eyes and tell them what to do.

Fate is in our own hands and whatever cards we are dealt with, we're supposed to make do with it.
Scars be scars, there's nothing much we can do to remove it or cover it.
I say, just let it be and thank God for the learning experience.

Move on.


Peace and love,
Lewis